My best new communication move has been the “shut up” technique.
My colossal failures in communication have always occurred after I tried to go it alone. When I tried to coerce them into understanding that I was just trying to help them. Attempting to force my heart intent and motives onto someone on a completely different place on the path than me. (insert laughter here or in my case most definitely my foot)
Needless to say it did not go well (understatement of the century)
It turns out the Maker of the Universe, the One who created the person I am failing miserably at communicating with may have some excellent pointers on how that person operates.
(Jason Rosewell- unsplash)
When I finally sought His counsel, He instructed me to “shut up, be still and know that I am God.” When I let Him be the Lord over both of us- things began to move. He was very busy working things out and into her heart and mine. His gentle pruning needed time to take place and manifest. Once this was done He created a pathway of easy, gentle communication I never could have established.
Ephesians 4:29 (AMP)
Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar] words ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good for building up others, according to the need and the occasion, so that it will be a blessing to those who hear [you speak].
I had been concentrating on speaking to be heard so that I could get the answers I needed to make decisions for the mission in front of me. I missed Ephesians 4:29 by a long shot. Never once did I consider that all communication should be a vehicle to distribute blessings.
Has the Lord taught you any communication tips that we can take into the Holidays and New Year? I would love any pointers I can get.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, forgive me of my hasty words I rocket at people without regard for their heart. Help us to re-frame our words to be a blessing to all that hear us speak. Not just in times of prayer and love filled conversations with people we care about but with all people we interact with. Let the Holy Spirit speak through us without any hindrance. Thank You, Jesus. Amen.